Last week, I became completely enamored with and personally connected, with a blog that Cho sent along: the Nie Nie Dialogues. Written by a young mother of four in Arizona, the blog accounts daily adventures of the author (Stephanie Nielson/Nie,) her loving and handsome husband, Christian, and their fun children Claire, Jane, Oliver, and Nicholas.
Of course, life is never a perfect narrative. The reason Cho forwarded the URL was because she saw a New York Times article about the couple tragically being in a private plane crash on August 16. They are currently both in critical condition at the Maricopa Burn Unit in Phoenix.
So, one may ask, what about this mommy blog touched me so much that I spent all of my post-work evenings last week reading the Nie Nie Dialogues' complete archive? I'm not a mother, or a Mormon (disclaimer: Nie and her family belong to the Church of LDS, but only about 1% of the posts are religiously leaning.)
I guess the answer would be three words:
celebration
gratitude
connection
Since the accident, bloggers have banded together to fund raise for the Nielson's recovery, showing that one truly can be touched by online dialogue. Laura Trujillo phrased the reason for everyone's fascination with the family pretty perfectly in her piece for The Arizona Replublic...
"I was charmed by her love of living in the moment and her honesty, even if it didn't always make her look good. Of course she had hard times, but she was about celebrating motherhood, not complaining about it.
So, I followed her stories: of simple family life, inspired daily by her joy in being a mother and wife."
Some might scoff at the idea of a woman reveling in the roles of wife and mom. Aren't we, the females of 2008, supposed to strive for bigger and better things in regard to status, employment, and self definition? But Nie shows that a contemporary woman can be cool, fun, fashionably, quirky, and totally energized (instead of overwhelmed) by the traditional roles. Her story encourages each of us to embrace our lives in all aspects, to take joy in even something small.
She hides little feel-good "fortunes" around town for strangers to find, releases balloons with wishes inside to mark birthdays, proclaims "I am a Queen, look what I just did!" in talking about the birth of her fourth child, and laughs at the sometimes gross daily realities of parenthood. In short, she is someone I'd like to know, (even with the secret underwear and all.)
I guess, for me, reading Nie Nie helped me turn a corner in regards to really loving and appreciating my life and my choices. I've always had a bit of a problem with gratitude. Under the daily grind, I find it so easy to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, tired, to look at the negative, and question my big decisions. Nie caused me to ask myself what my life would look like through her lens of perspective? The answer is, wonderful -- I am lucky in life, love, family, friends, and health.
Now, when I wake up in the morning, I get out of bed happily. I go about my daily routine thankful for the little things. I smile at strangers, I'm polite on the train, I give the benefit of the doubt. Life truly does change depending on a person's perspective.
Nie's sister is doing updates on her blog, and I noticed that today Nie is having a important skin grafting operation -- with dermis grown right here in The Bean! The operation's success is critical to her recovery, so I thought it a perfect time to say "Thank you" for my new viewpoint, and send some positive vibes to her via Blogorelli and everyone who reads this post.
From behind my wall of sunshine,
Blogorelli
A few links:
The Nie Nie Dialogues
Nielson Recovery Fund
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